Currently, my friend Natalie's boyfriend is going to college. He's attending RIT which is a fantastic school especially for the field of work he'd like to get into. RIT is located in Rochester, New York.
We live in New Jersey, about 6 hours away... not really that long of a car ride.

Natalie went to visit Brian, her boyfriend, earlier this week to see him because it was parent's weekend and it was just before he starts classes and what not. His father is a bit over-bearing and she didn't get to spend as much time with him as she would have liked. I understand that. It had been awhile since she had seen him. He left about two weeks ago to move in and get his stuff moved from his mom's house to his dad's. During this "down time" she had, she would text me and bitch about how she was scared that they would break up or that he wouldn't want her any more... yada yada blah blah blah.

The last night she was there, they talked about breaking up and they talked about what they were going to do now that they were going to be long distance. (she brought up breaking up by the way, bring everything on to herself) She called me after she got home yesterday, crying hysterically and going on and on about how terrified she was of losing him and how much it would "destroy her" if they broke up.
*note: I love Natalie with all of my heart. She's my best friend.*

GROW THE FUCK UP PLEASE!
She told me she wanted him to come home, and that she missed him. That he makes her a better person, that they never fight because he's so fucking understanding. That she loves him more than anything in the world. What the fuck am I then? Chop liver? I'm the person that pulled you through the worst break up you've ever had because no one else wanted to because you threw them all away.
She told me she wanted him to transfer to a shitty New Jersey tech college because she's a) selfish, b) clingy and c) fucking hysterical. She also said that she would give up everything that she has if it meant that he could come home for ONE more day. the fuck bitch.

When she broke up with Cain, no one wanted to fucking talk to her and help her through it because she dropped everyone to be with him. Guess who was there to help her through it... ME. When they broke up she said she loved him and would give up everything she owned to be with him again for just ONE more day. I was talking to her on the phone and mentioned it all sounded similar and she got mad at me for "even comparing the love I have for Brian to the what I had with Cain." It'S THE SAME FUCKING THING WITH A DIFFERENT GUY. You clearly are not emotionally ready to have a boyfriend because you get so fucking attached to everything. Not only that but, it's like listening to the same thing over again.

I get that you're upset because your boyfriend went to college, but big fucking deal! You knew this was going to happen. You have known for MONTHS that he was going to go to RIT for school and now he gets there and there is no one here to devote ever ounce of their attention to you so you freak the fuck out.

When she broke up with Cain, I was, in essences, her boyfriend for 6 fucking months. When she was with Brian she didn't block me out of her life but for the last three weeks she has.  I honestly didn't care. I like Brian, he's a nice guy and I knew she would want to spend time with him before he left, but don't you fucking dare call me hysterical bitching about missing him and then when I try to fucking help you pull your shit together, not answer the fucking phone. I tried being nice to her and getting her to calm down, relax and think about it one day at a time, but she wouldn't have it. Honestly, why did you fucking call me if you weren't going to listen to a fucking word I say?

I wasn't harsh with her, I didn't tell her flat out that she was being a complete and udder child and stupid. I wanted to, believe me I wanted to. I understand that love makes you fucking retarded, but really? You have a life to lead and so does he. You need to move on. If the relationship is going to work, it's going to work. You can't force it.

She unbelievable frustrating. I feel bad that she so upset, but I honestly have no idea what to do about this. This is something that she just needs to move on from. He's just going to college. Whoop-de-fuckin'-doo. Don't try to blow it up way bigger than it is and make it a "metaphorical sign that the relationship is bound to fail." Get the hell out of here. It's black and white. He's going to college so he can't bend at your beck and fucking call every second of every day any more and that scares you because he might meet someone at school that's in to everything he's into, leave you and you'd have to deal with being dumped by "the one person that's not just my best friend but my boyfriend and understands me completely." Chill the fuck out man, seriously. I couldn't give fewer fucks than right now. I love you and everything but if you fucking talk to me about this again and blow it up as huge has you have in the single hour and a half phone call I've had with you on the subject and I will kick you in the fucking teeth I swear to God.

Sorry for the rant. This is just what's happening in my life so... yeah.
Am I being harsh? I'm just frustrated. She does this every time she breaks up with someone or is at risk of breaking up with someone. Like is it bad that I really don't care? It's not like you're there to notice I'm fucking dying inside everyday or that I have new braces or got a hair-cut. It's not like you're there for me "no matter what" even though you say that. You can say that as much as you want to, but we both know for a fact that if I needed to you, you'd check and see if I was okay 3 days later or you wouldn't even be there at all.

I get so sick and tired of giving and giving and getting nothing but shit in return for it. I love you man, but there's nothing you can do but try to work through it with Brian because it's going to be hard to do and there's nothing nice and happy I can say about it because that's the fucking truth. Get over it to move past it because it's fucking ridiculous.